I will lead by praying for wisdom each day.
I’ve had more than a dozen jobs in my lifetime. Parenting is by far the most difficult one I’ve ever encountered. The decisions made in directing and discipling my children have big consequences. Their minds and hearts are dramatically shaped by my words and actions. I very much realize that I don’t naturally possess the wisdom to effectively lead my children in the path they should go. I need help — big time. I’m very thankful for the promise in the New Testament book of James; if we ask for wisdom, God will freely give it (James 1:5). I’m trying my best to claim that promise and make that ask every morning.
I wish fathers everywhere would lead in their homes by making this their daily prayer.
I will lead by having my family in worship on a regular basis.
How many times do we see a mom dragging her kids to church while Dad plays eighteen or wets a hook at his favorite fishing hole? Why is leadership in the spiritual realm being assigned to Mom? Or, how often is Dad allowing the kids’ sports schedule to take priority over corporate worship? What kind of message does this communicate to our children about what (or Who) is really most important in life? What if Christian fathers all across our nation collectively drew a line in the sand and said, “We will not allow anything to interfere with our family being involved in worship each week.” I believe that act alone would dramatically change the fabric of our nation.
I wish fathers everywhere would lead in their homes by making weekly worship a priority.
I will lead through pursuing purity.
At the lowest point of his life, Job remembered the promise he gave as a husband and father: “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman” (Job 31:1). Job understood how leading in his family meant that he didn’t need to allow his eyes, mind, and heart to wander outside of the marriage bed.
For the past decade, entering fatherhood have been young men who hit puberty right at the time we gained unfettered access to the Internet and all the images contained within. Pornography had formerly been mildly challenging to acquire; suddenly it became difficult to avoid. Good, godly guys fell victim and became addicted to porn. Now, dads all across our nation are struggling with this issue and finding that it’s severely damaging their ability to be good fathers and husbands.
I wish fathers everywhere would lead in their homes by working hard to keep their minds and hearts pure.
I will lead by working hard at my marriage.
I have certainly been guilty of allowing my wife to lead in this area instead of taking the initiative to ensure that we have a solid, healthy marriage. I need to do more. I want to do more. On this Father’s Day, I will commit to be the best husband I can be. And to be intentional about working hard at this thing called marriage. I recognize that not only will this commitment improve my life and marriage, but that this is one of the best gifts I can give to my children. They will feel safe and thrive knowing that Mom and Dad are okay.
I wish fathers everywhere would lead in their homes by intentionally working at their marriages.
I will lead by working hard in my job.
This was not an issue for previous generations. In fact, while fathers may have failed in being emotionally connected with their children, they generally succeeded in providing for their families.
However, this has changed, and is going to become even more of an issue with future generations. Teens and young adults, as a whole, are lacking a strong work ethic and initiative. A student pastor recently told me that teenagers today typically have little desire to get their driver’s licenses. This was difficult for me to comprehend, remembering the 16-year-old me standing outside the DMV on my birthday, waiting for the doors to open. They have Instagram and Netflix, he said, and basically have no desire to leave the house.
I know this is a generalization, but this lack of initiative seems to be more pervasive among the coming generations. Not working and not providing for one’s family will be the source of many arguments and will create instability in the household. Being a good provider isn’t all that dads should be; however, hard work and wise financial decisions will be a great benefit to your family.
I wish fathers everywhere would lead in their homes by working hard in their jobs.
I will lead in how I spend my time.
I love golf, but I recognize how many hours this activity can eat up in my day. I’m careful to limit how much I play. Sure, I might rather be on the golf course than sitting on the sidelines of my son’s football practice, watching him do up-downs with twenty other eight-year-olds. However, my son loves having me there, watching him practice, so he can later ask me questions like, “Hey, Dad, did you see me make that block?” Yeah, buddy, I saw you. Great job.
I have committed to my family that we will have dinner together virtually every night. We may go in a thousand different directions during the day, but we will eat together in the evenings and we will talk. No phones, no tablets, no television. I’ve committed that time to really listen to my wife and children. I want to know about the trivial events of their day as well as the joys and struggles of their hearts.
I wish fathers everywhere would lead in their homes by spending significant, quality time with their families.